Heh. I guess you can tell by the title of this post that this is going to be one long icky rant huh. Don’t worry. It’s going to be icky, but I’ll try my best not to make it long. Promise. :P
Lemme just say, before anything else, that I’m blogging this in behalf of my roommates, Aster and Ivy, who are fortunate enough *gag* to get front seats to this quarter-life drama that my life is. Tell me, what could be better (or worse? haha) than spending your 24th year of existence with two ladies who understand what you’re going through because they’re experiencing the same crisis? :)
A mushy tagalog movie, that is.
That being said, there was no need for explanations amongst the three of us when we took our seats inside the cinema of Shangrila Mall for a last full show of One More Chance. No need for explanations when Aster took out her box of tissue and started sniffing. Or when Ivy started making fun of the actors in an attempt to keep the tough act (haha!). Or when I started tapping my feet restlessly because I hated the thought that I could relate to what was happening on screen.
Call it cliche, or jologs, or whatever, but it actually felt weird watching something vaguely familiar. I’m not really a fan of tagalog movies but I’m quite impressed how they managed to capture real-life break-up drama in a made-up story. Of course everything was a haze. Five years worth of ups and downs in a relationship jammed in 20 minutes. Months of sleepless nights and torturous mornings summed up in 2 or 3 scenes. Moving on, adjusting back to being single with a little help from your friends, and getting a new job, all in 30 minutes. Two years of moving away to “find yourself”, fastforwarded to 2 minutes. In real life, it’s more agonizing and longer than that.
The ultimate truth of the matter is, experiencing a break-up is probably one of the most (if not TEH most) liberating, life-altering experience in the world. While it’s mostly painful, it’s an opportunity to get to know yourself a bit more and to acknowledge what you’re worth. It’s the kind of experience you’d want to go back to when you need something to draw strength from, or when you have a friend who needs to be comforted.
Take it from someone who experienced something like it. I’m not an expert at all, just like Aster, or Ivy.. just like the rest of you. Break-ups are real. It happens, but it’s not the end of the world.
Years after you experienced that heartbreak, just like the movies, it’s easier to look back and say it wasn’t that long after all. You’re able to focus on more important things (career, family, friends, yourself), and just when you know you’re ready to love again, someone comes along who’s ready to love you more than anyone has ever loved you before (hey, say cheese). I’m sure you’ll agree when I say nothing beats knowing that the things that happened in the past ultimately brought you where you’re supposed to be. No more regrets.
Life is funny that way. It’s sometimes mushy, sometimes predictable, oftentimes agonizing — it’s a series of ups and downs — but it’s worth living just the same.
Just like a mushy tagalog movie.
[Voice over] One More Chance. Now showing in theaters nationwide.
Haha. Yeah. Whatever.
*Image from Gettyimages, excluding the caption.
The ultimate truth of the matter is, experiencing a break-up is probably one of the most (if not TEH most) liberating, life-altering experience in the world. While it’s mostly painful, it’s an opportunity to get to know yourself a bit more and to acknowledge what you’re worth. It’s the kind of experience you’d want to go back to when you need something to draw strength from, or when you have a friend who needs to be comforted.
amen and amen. soooo true. and i’m kinda an expert at break ups too. :P
Well hello Ate Stef. Amazing what God can do, huh. :)
Ack. A ONE MORE CHANCE post!
“experiencing a break-up is probably one of the most (if not TEH most) liberating, life-altering experience in the world.
Hear hear!
It hurts at first, but later on it empowers you to be independent and to love yourself more. I absolutely agree on this one!!! :)
Cheers to us who got through it in one piece! Hehe. :)
Your post reminded me of the time my friends sort of forced me to watch a tagalog movie and in the last five minutes I was trying hard to hold in my tears and they were looking at me! Yeah break-ups do make you stronger and thats a good side of it. In my recent blog post I talk about a show that reminded of certain times.
blog hopping!! yah that’s actually true i guess based on other’s experience.. hehe.. quite long post, huh?!
Haha. I couldn’t help it. :) Thanks for dropping by. :)
“mahal na mahal kita at ang sakit sakit na” woohoo fafa john lloyd!!!
Hey Riz! How funny we blogged about the same thing. Well, quarterlife and midlife crisis, same-o right. Check out my entry on the “three month rule” :)
Medyo disastrous nga lang ‘yung pagka-panood ko ng “One More Chance” pero hindi dahil sa movie. Du’n sa ka-”date” ko. Heheh.
Anyway, just like what they say, what doesn’t kill you makes you stronger. For someone who has had more or less 15 and counting breakup stories, I sometimes wonder why am I not scared to love again, even if the bitterness got the better of me these past few months.
I just don’t know sometimes, too, “if love just happens in the movies…” :p I just would like to put it that way. At least for now.
i haven’t seen the movie yet. i’m such a loser. :( kasi naman your kuya won’t concede. too maarte movie daw, kaya mas lalo daw akong dumadrama when i watch such. but i bet even if it doesn’t apply, i might be able to relate. is it still showing? i’ll watch it alone hehe.
Well-written ‘break up’ post, Riz. I can relate hehe. Parang I feel quite encouraged to do another break up hahaha! All that finding yourself again stuff is encouraging hehe. But I am happy with love now. :)
Merry Christmas!
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